Some results

As I look at few of the answers that I got from the survey I find that there are a lot of things that I knew but never realized were important and of course a lot I didn’t know at all.
To start with one girl who did answer the survey started of with her opinion on the reasons because of which a girl would be interested in a guy. The following is an excerpt from her answers:

Most girls like only 10-20% of the guys they meet in their whole life. (Shocking, but true) The rest they either hate (Could be another 20%) or don't like, don't care for, ignore or do not give a damn about. There are also those who are classified as weirdo, irritating etc. Now coming to the guys they like. They like the guys they like for different reasons.

· Because he's helpful and helps her out of difficulties – This might sound manipulative, but a guy who helps usually expects something in return, either the girls help with something or her company or her friend’s company ;-)

· Because he’s good looking/good dresser (Sounds shallow but true) – Everybody likes good looking things. You’ll be surprised that this one of the features that can be highest on one person’s list and lowest on someone else’s. It varies a great deal unlike the other factors.

· Because he’s smart and witty and funny and keeps her amused and she always has fun with him – obviously, everybody likes to have a good time. When a guy is funny, he should also be the same ‘kind’ of funny as the girl or else he might end up on her hate or irritating list.

· Because he’s intelligent and his company is enjoyable as well as knowledgeable. He usually gives sane advice, opinions etc – Most girls like smart company. At least Indian girls do. That’s why unlike in the US in India smart guys or nerds aren’t as ill-treated. In fact they get some kind of respect from all girls. The reason u don’t see such guys hanging out a lot with girls is not because girls don’t like them but the smart guy doesn’t, or because he’s scared to approach.

· Because he’s understanding and shows concern and talks to her about her problems (not gossiping) – Obviously, everyone likes this, goes without saying.

· Because he’s romantic. And makes her feel good by doing nice things for her – Girls are romantic silly things u may say. And it’s true. Once she has decided that a guy is cute the only thing that will convert it to a feeling of ‘liking’ is the hints he gives. And these hints better be romantic.

· Because he gives her gifts (appalling reason but true) – Who doesn’t like getting gifts? For some girls this is some where in the top of their list where as for others too much of gift giving can be a turn off.

· Because he has the same interest as she does so it makes conversation a pleasure – everybody loves to talk. This overlaps a little with the ‘understanding guy’. And one other thing, not everyone goes around ‘looking’ for a relationship. Sometimes they happen and when they don’t most are happy to go around having a great time with friends of the opposite gender. Most people limit their likes to crushes I think. But again that’s my opinion.

Well that I think is very informative. It really tells what a guy should do to keep the girl interested in him. But this is after you have got a girl you need to impress. But how do you get the first in the first place.

When you consider guys what are the first thought that cross their mind when they look at a girl. Well they try to judge her on the basis of beauty. And that’s what is easily noticeable. So what else do you expect from our counterparts. Girls too will obviously notice how handsome the guy is. So the answers to the first question that I asked – When a girl sees a guy what are the first thoughts that cross her mind – were nearly similar.

- I usually rate a guy as wow, good, not bad/OK, bad and uhhh… And I think that’s what most girls do too. You don’t look at the guy and try to imagine yourself in a relationship with him. You just observe, rate and forget. We used to do this in college. All girls would sit and comment on the guys that passed. I’m sure guys do the same ;-)

- If he is a handsome guy, then I’ll be like wow, he’s nice, but that’s it. If he’s not handsome then I look at the way he talks, the way he dresses, and if his vocabulary is good and he talks well, then I think that he’s a nice eligible guy

- First thing that comes across is how’s this guy’s behavior.…

I will post the answers to the other questions in another post